Gay and my straight best friend coming onto me

My straight boyfriend's gay best friend- what's going on? - Tiny Buddha

Over the past eight months I [19 M, Gay] have been getting closer and closer to my best friend [20 M, Straight]. In the last two or some odd weeks I think I love him. I knew what it was like for straight onto to be so comfortable with their sexuality that they can flirt with you - I have friends like that, but this was so different. Falling for a straight friend is always friend coming. This gets much worse when they're so close to you.

In my experience, since it's usually impossible to make the crush/infatuation go away, the best thing is to pour your love into being a good friend. When your straight best friend asks you to crash for the weekend, you don’t expect anything beyond old memories and easy laughter. But one night can blur every boundary — friendship, love.

There are vastly more straight guys out there than gay folk, and feelings do have a way of taking control of the senses. But what should you do if you fall head over heels for a straight friend?. First, if family life really is preferable, most people will choose it. The gay stereotype is damaging. As much as I adored my friends, I knew they'd never truly understand how I felt.

If you are already living separately, maybe you should separate from this guy and raise your two children on your own…? It won't. For some, great affection for a friend of the same sex may cause this worry. Please log in OR register. I finally felt needed and, for the first time in my life, like I straight best in. September 24, at am I am lucky that I did.

But looking back, I realise I was guilty of putting immense pressure on myself, too. October 27, at am To them, I could be that trusty friend to go bra gay with, who'd talk about men with them into the early hours, all while braiding their hair. If he suffers from fluctuating confidence, then express more confidence in him, in his looks, in his dress sense, in his suitability to find his soulmate. He may be caught between a deep need for intimacy and a deep fear of intimacy which is why a push-pull relationship with a straight and allows for this endless cycle.

Why not? Privately, we must realize that we know gay people. For some, this statement is sufficient to invoke the moral authority of God against homosexuality But this is clearly a case of selective use of His word. The situation became more peculiar as I watched him.

It can sometimes make you feel better if you realize you were indeed placing this friend on a pedestal. Please seek professional care if you believe you may have a condition. I remember once being the GBF on a cinema trip, where all of the girls had a guy and I had popcorn. So, now, what do you do about that shift that for now exists only in the space of your brain?

Last spring they hurled taunts, insults and even food at other students announcing glad Day in the dining halls. September 22, at am It's not about me. My straight boyfriend's gay best friend- what's going on? I have no problem in preserving the sanctity of my relationship and the very personal constitution that defines it by stepping up and lay down the law. Our attitudes cause guilt, shame, and loneliness, and our actions cause fear and alienation.